Deep Roots

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Brenda Dunne | April 5, 2011 |

There’s a big white sign on our front lawn. This morning it’s swinging innocently in the breeze, clean and white against the muddy spring snow. We’ve seen signs like this before—in fact this is the fifth one in fourteen years of marriage. We know what it means. It’s the beginning, really. The beginning of a process which can be painful, stressful, rewarding, exhilarating, devastating, and in the end life-changing.

We’re moving.

The posting message is in. Military orders to pack up and ship out. By some standards our stay here has been short—only three years—but for us it’s been a long time. We’ve even put down roots. Not deep ones, mind you. But we’ve made friends. I’ve got a great job—even opened a physiotherapy clinic with help from a fabulous company. We’ve found a wonderful barn and an incredible equestrian family. Little feelers pushing slowly into the topsoil.

rootsLife in the military is not conducive to deep roots. I’m constantly being asked, “How do you do it? Isn’t it hard to move so often?” Of course it’s hard. But my husband has an amazing job. He loves it. It pays well. Because of his job our family has had experiences no other job could re-create. Sure there are times being a military spouse truly sucks…but for the most part it’s a good life. And, believe it or not, I actually LIKE moving. Not the leaving part—the tearing up part—but the exciting new house part. The stretching our legs and putting down roots part.

This posting there’s a new dimension to our move. We’re selling a country property and looking to buy…a farm.

WHAT? You move every two years and you want to buy a farm? Are you INSANE?


The truth of the matter is, one gets tired of living in the world of ‘what if’. What if you get posted early? What if you can’t sell? What if hubby is deployed and you’re left caring for three kids, two horses and 45 acres? What if you can’t even find a farm to begin with?

My answer? BRING IT ON. I’d rather live the way I want to live for two years and deal with the consequences than live miserably on a safe postage-stamp city lot. I’d rather slog through months of house renovations while the weeds grow in my garden than spend two minutes mowing my lawn within arm’s reach of my neighbour’s house. And I’d much rather work my butt off to keep a horse that my daughter can ride any time of any day, then pay someone else half my salary for three hour-long rides a week. I might even hop on said horse myself once in a while.

Maybe I am insane. But happiness is what you make it. I refuse to live the limitations placed in front of me. Sometimes plants do better when you tear them up and plunk them down in richer soil. It’s painful, but necessary for healthy growth.

And in the end, you get stronger, deeper roots.

About the Author

Brenda Corey Dunne is a proud mom of three, military spouse, and writer. She has been practicing physiotherapy for almost twenty years. When not working, she can be found with a book in her hand, her hands in the dirt, or holding someone else’s horse. You can also find her on Twitter as @overdunne.


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Cindy Corwin is the CEO/Owner of Horse Family Magazine and is specifically interested in giving back to equine communities and bringing families closer together in their love of horses.

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